Sex. We talk about it, we think about it, we are spoon fed it in the media every day. So why does it all have to come to a halt when we are face to face with the big “P”. Pregnancy.
We are all sexual beings with sexual needs and these needs are still very viable while you are pregnant.
There were times throughout my pregnancy, I would dread having sex, mostly because I felt like a beluga whale, but it doesn’t have to be that way!
Whether it be having sex, or the absence of it, there is a conversation that needs to be had between you and your partner to ensure your sex life is in tact through the duration of the roller coaster we call pregnancy.
If you are still in the process of trying to get pregnant check out Fertility: Expectation vs. Reality to clear any misconceptions you have about fertility.
So, you may be asking how do I spice up my sex life when I too feel like a whale? It’s simple, here are 10 ways to have a hot sex life while pregnant.
1. Eat the Right Foods
I know that seems odd but there are plenty of foods that will increase your sex drive. Some woman have high libidos while they are pregnant while others need a little help in that department.
There are plenty of foods that have the perfect ingredients for a passionate night.
Please be sure to check with your doctor before eating any of these foods while pregnant. Here are a few examples of aphrodisiac foods.
Honey (put it on some strawberries)
Oysters (Cook them to be safe)
You can also check out foods to eat if you are experiencing morning sickness. It is important for you to feel well and comfortable in the bedroom and having morning sickness is not that.
2. Know the Do’s and Donts
Sex can be different when you are pregnant. Everyone has their sexual preference. Know how far you and your partner are willing to go and what are your deal breakers. Create a safe word with your partner to say if you are feeling uncomfortable or scared.
The same way you need to know what not to do, it is equally important to know what to do and what turns you and your partner on.
When there are needs to be met but its not communicated to your partner then that need will never be satisfied. Let your partner know what you would like them to do to help you feel relaxed and safe to have sex while your carrying a child.
3. Make Sex a Priority
We all are extremely busy with the hustle and bustle of life. You may already be a mother, wife, employee, sister, daughter, aunt, and the list goes on.
I know all too well that life gets in the way of intimacy and it is only 10 times harder when you are pregnant, but you have to make sex a priority or it wont happen very often. Many couples fall into a sex slump after hearing the words “you’re pregnant”.
They put their time and passion into other things like getting ready for a baby and forget that intimacy is the most important thing to keep their relationship strong and their body healthy.
Some people feel like having a schedule for sex is ridiculous, but those people are probably not having that much sex. There is no problem with scheduling sex if that works for you as a couple.
Sometimes you have to be intentional about your intentions (see what I did there). But scheduling your sex sessions can actually be very sexy.
If you know it’s coming you can build up anticipation and there is no guessing work about whether you will or wont. You know when I get home its on and poppin’!
You also need to know how often is a satisfying time for you and your partner? Maybe its once a week, 3 times a week. Every day?
Not that you have to calculate how many times you do it every week but it’s good to know you and your partner are satisfied in a round about way.
Again, Whatever you have to do to make sex a priority, do it! It’s better for you and the baby.
4. It’s Not Just About Sex It’s About Intimacy
So, your probably thinking. You just said to make sex a priority! Yes, I did, but along with that you have to know ‘your partner inside and out. Things change when you get pregnant.
The relationship you have with your partner will evolve into parentship. Continue to develop a strong connection like none other you’ve had before. Only when you are on that level will sex come naturally and make it easier to prioritize.
5. Date Each Other Again
Remember how you got pregnant in the first place! It is a lot more fun making a baby than carrying one, but try to remember what turned you on about your partner. When you do, it will bring back those memories and sexual chemistry you have.
You don’t always have to wait for sexual chemistry to thrust upon you, you can create scenarios to heighten the sexual tension and bring fireworks back into the bedroom even while carrying a heavy load.
That might be a date night, or relax in a jacuzzi or tub, or go to a dark movie that neither of you want to watch. Create moments where you can be one on one with each other and build intimacy.
6. Try Different Positions
When you’ve had sex for so many years, you can easily get into a slump and forget all of the creative ways to get the job done. There are a host of different positions you can try to make having sex more comfortable.
7. Go For a Walk First
Not only is walking so good for you and the baby while you are pregnant it can also boost endorphins!
When you feel good you want to have more sex, when you have more sex you feel better, and when you feel better you have more sex. See how that works 😉
Try getting your heart pumping and that rush will carry over into the bedroom.
8. Think Outside the Bedroom
You don’t always have to have sex in the bed laying on your back. In fact, that is probably the most uncomfortable position when you are expecting.
Go to different rooms in your house and use other objects that will help support you. Such as a birthing ball. These are not only helpful when you are in labor, they can also be used during sexy time. sit on the couch and use the ball to lift your hips.
A pregnancy pillow can give extra cushion and support whether on the couch or on the floor. Try bending it to your comfort level during side positions or doggy style.
9. Think About the Benefits
Some couples are afraid they are going to hurt the baby if they have sex but really it is quite the opposite. There are so many benefits to having sex while pregnant. Here is a list , just to name a few.
Heightened senses due to hormones
Quickens the labor process
10. Make it fun
The bottom line, sex should be fun! Don’t take it so seriously!
When you first get in a relationship you are more free and open to the process after getting preggo you start to place more weight on your sex life which creates added stress to your situation.
Sex should be enjoyable for both parties. Here are a few ways to ignite your sex life and revel in intimacy even while pregnant.
- Turn off the technology
- Make a sexy playlist together
- Watch an adult movie
- Role play
- Add some ambience
- Give each other a massage
- Try something new
- Try a 30 day sex challenge
- Play games
- Share your fantasies with each other
Sex is very important during pregnancy. If you use these tips you will see your sex life blossom like never before!
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