Having a second baby or more children in general is no easy decision. So many question run through your head. We will go through these considerations one by one to help you decide if an addition to the family is the right decision for you and your family. Ask yourself these 5 questions.
- Is having a second baby right for you?
- Are you ready to start all over again?
- Is a second child easier?
- Is your child ready for a sibling?
- Are you financially stable?
Let’s discuss these questions a little further because fertility decisions are no easy feat!
Is having a second baby right for you?
Planning is important in parenting. If you are making a decision to have another child you should consider if having another child right now is in the best interest of you, your partner, and your current children.
There are many things to consider when concluding whether this big decision is right for you. Millenni-dad.com puts it all into context in the article “Things to consider when having a second baby”, Topics to consider when deciding to actively try to have another child is: Fears, timing, finances, and lifestyle.
All of these factors have to line up or be suitable for you in order to feel good about your decision. Having a second child is not just about the mother but the support system behind them. Whether that be your partner, grandparents, family, or friends that will aid in the up bringing of the child. Ultimately the decision is up to you and you shouldn’t let any one opinion sway you one way or the other but it is helpful when others are on board.
Once you decide whether you want to actively try for a second child you can move on to the next question.
Are you ready to start all over again?
Let’s be honest, when you have another child you are practically starting from scratch! All of the pregnancy woes will regenerate. All the poop diapers will reappear. All of the sleepless nights will fester and yet you also have a toddler or small child to worry about.
When making your decision, consider the effects of being a parent for a second time. It can be very difficult but not impossible!
Your lifestyle will definitely change. You are adding a whole other human into the house which means a little extra of everything; Food, beds, strollers, time, emotions, stress. You may not have as much time to do the thing you previously enjoyed doing on your own or with your family of 3.
Everything will take more planning and preparation to get acclimated to the new way of life. This may be exciting for you or it may make you feel overwhelmed and if so you may need to take some extra time to think things through.
Is a second child easier?
Maybe you want to have another child because you think it will be easier. Maybe you want to test out your new levels of experience in parenting. Many moms have said they feel more prepared for the second child then they did for the first. Experience is the best teacher. Things that freaked you out with your first child will be a lot easier to handle with style and grace.
Since you already had a baby you can reuse multiple products and clothing that you already have. That is one less thing you have to worry about with the next one.
Your pregnancy might even be better the second time around. According to the World Heath Organization, “Waiting 18 months between pregnancies reduced the health risk to 0.5%.” So, the longer you wait, the more prepared and healthy you are to welcome a new baby in your family.
Is your child ready for a sibling?
Another consideration when thinking about having a newborn is if your current child or children are ready for another sibling. It is recommended for the age gap between siblings to be 18 months- 4 years. Anything more or less than that can cause strain on the siblings relationship.
If your child is older they may be able to tell you if they want another sibling but if they are younger you will have to observe their behavior. Are they starting to be more independent? Do they need your constant attention? If they do not seem like they are ready to let go of the reigns a little then it may not be the best time to bring someone else into the picture.
There is nothing like the love of a sibling, so if you are on the fence just go for it, your child will learn so many people skills by having a sister or brother.
Are you financially stable?
This is probably the biggest concern when having another baby. There are multiple costs associated with a newborn such as: labor and delivery, diapers, food, formula, child care, and clothing. Cost of these items are skyrocketing.
Are you financially in the right situation to support another human being? Newborns can put a lot of financial strain on a family. According to parenting.com The average cost of a child’s first year of life is $12,000!
Obviously there are ways to cut these cost, but babies can still cost a pretty penny. Do you feel stable enough to support 2, 3 or 4 children? The economy has started getting real shaky. Just make sure you are taking the proper precautions to secure your family’s financial future. For a free financial budgeter all you have to do is subscribe to this blog. While money is very important there are plenty of ways to save money and get baby items for free but again plan, plan, plan!
I hope this gave you some things to think about when making the decision to have a second baby. These are some questions to get you started but every family is different and has their own concerns. If you think you are ready go for it! You are amazing and capable of anything. If this article helped you make a decision, leave a comment down below I would love to hear about it!