Sex is amazing, who are we kidding, that’s how you got pregnant isn’t it?
However, sex during pregnancy is a taboo subject. It is about time we talked about it, so you can be prepared with all the facts.
There are so many woman that ask me is sex during pregnancy safe? What are the benefits? Can I still do missionary position? I am here to answer all of those questions and so much more.
If you have not checked out my previous post, How to Have Hot Sex During Pregnancy, you are missing out.
But first, I am here to explain what they don’t tell you about sex during pregnancy.
1. Your hormones will be raging!
Some days you won’t be able to get enough sex and other days having sex is the last thing on your mind. This is normal. A pregnant woman’s hormones fluctuates from day to day and you may experience vaginal dryness. Make sure you communicate your concerns with your partner.
In the first trimester you may also experience bloating, nausea, and exhaustion. It is perfectly normal to not want sex some days. The bigger you get the more uncomfortable the thought is but just know you can blame it on the hormones..
2. How safe it actually is.
There are a lot of questions surrounding sex during pregnancy but one of the big ones is, is it safe for baby? Absolutely!
Unless there is an underlying concern your doctor has, there is no reason you can not safely have sex throughout your entire pregnancy. The baby is protected by the amniotic sac and the mucus plug seals the doorway of the cervix so that penetration or infection cannot get in.
The great part is you don’t have to use a condom (for pregnancy purposes, if you suspect your partner could be exposed to an STD, please use a condom).
3. Sex can hurt if you are not in the right position.
No one will tell you; though sex is very safe for baby and you, there are certain positions that are better than others. Use these positions to have the best sexual experience.
- Side- Lying: Lay on your left or right side, which ever one is more comfortable. Raise your leg or have your partner hold it up for you. He can enter from the front or the back. If you feel pressure on your back or side use a prop such as a pregnancy pillow (like this one) for support.
- Woman on Top: Whether it be classic cowgirl, or reverse cowgirl, when you are on top you have all the control. Though you have to do a little more work if at anytime you feel uncomfortable or you don’t like the pace, you can make a change.
- Doggy Style: If done right this can alleviate a lot of pressure on the belly. Use a pregnancy ball (this one is great for birthing too) or pillow to rest your arms on. You can also try standing up and putting your hands on a wall as he enters from the rear. In this position it might be difficult to stand for so long if you are further along in your pregnancy but if you can do it this is a good one.
4. There are so many benefits of sex during pregnancy.
Though the thought of sex when you are hurling up your breakfast is the last thing on your mind, in the long run, sex has so many benefits.
Here are just a few:
-Help jump start labor
-Ease pain and discomfort
-Help soften the cervix
-Strengthen connection with partner
-Help prevent eclampsia
5. There are sex positions that can be harmful.
While sex is safe during pregnancy, there are positions that you should not perform when laying it down in the bedroom.
Positions where your partner is on top or you are lying on your stomach can be very detrimental to the baby and your comfortability. Here are the top 3 worst sex positions during pregnancy.
6. You will easily get uncomfortable.
Swollen feet, moving baby, back pain, all of these are symptoms of pregnancy and tend to hinder getting hot and heavy in the bedroom.
Some days you may be ready to go and others you may just be ready to get in the bed and pass out. Don’t feel bad, it happens to the best of us.
I would recommend making arrangements for un-comfortability ahead of time. What does that mean?
Be prepared to relax when you get home from work. Meal prep, get organized, go shopping on the weekend. Make more time to unwind when you get home so you will want to have sex.
Also, use items such as a pregnancy pillow or ball to help you feel more relaxed. Try to reduce stress as much as possible to be intentionally comfortable when you can control it.
7. There are times when you shouldn’t have sex during pregnancy
You should not have sex if you are experiencing any of the following symptoms. Also, always consult your doctor before making any assumptions about sex during pregnancy.
These are situations from the American Pregnancy Association:
- History of premature birth or labor
- History of miscarriage
- If your water has broken
- If you experience unexplained vaginal bleeding or discharge
- If you have placenta previa or a very low-lying placenta
- If you have an incompetent cervix or if it has dilated
- If you or your partner has a sexually transmitted disease
8. Semen can help soften your cervix.
Pregnant woman are constantly looking for ways to induce pregnancy or increase their chances of having a natural birth. Semen is the answer!
This is important to keep in mind when you are close to birth and are looking for ways to speed up labor induction. You can thank me later.
9. You will have to educate your partner.
Just like you, your partner is curious about how their sex life will be affected based on this new found pregnancy.
You will have to be the advocate and educator for your sex life. Sit them down and present the facts. If they don’t believe you, share this information with them.
A lot of men lack understanding of how the female body functions during pregnancy and what will or will not change. If you are a man reading this, thank you.
Make it clear what the expectations are for sex in your relationship because it will save you a lot of heartache in the future. 9 months is a long time to go without sex.
10. Sex during pregnancy can be really fun!
There is no reason your sex life has to go down hill when you are preggo. There are so many ways to spice up your sex life. I have a whole article on how to have hot sex during pregnancy.
This opens so much opportunity for role play and to switch things up. Be open to trying different ways to reach climax and I believe you will be surprised how much closer you and your partner get while making breath taking memories.
There you have it. 10 things they don’t tell you about sex during pregnancy. These are things I really wish I knew before getting pregnant with my son.
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