Having a child completely changes a mother’s life. Let me tell you, if you’ve recently become a mother. It’s not only a meaningful and the most loving phase of your life, but can also become super challenging. Millennial mothers are busier than ever before. However, we all are aware of the fact that little ones need extra care and attention from their parents.
So, maybe you’re thinking about becoming a stay at home mom. And if you’ve finally made your mind up to become a stay at home mom, then you aren’t the only one.
According to a report from Pew Research Center about 1 in 5 U.S. moms are stay-at-home moms.
But wait, being a stay at home mom is a big responsibility and a huge decision of your life.
Therefore, this decision shouldn’t be made in any emotional state. There are certain questions that you must consider before finalizing your decision of being a
stay at home mom. Let’s explore these further.
1. Is it Affordable for You to Stay at Home?
This is the most important question before becoming a stay at home mom. Before quitting a job, ask yourself if your family can afford to live on a single salary.
If one income can cover all the household expenses, then being a stay-at-home mom can be an option for you.
If the answer to this question is no, then you surely need to reconsider your decision.
2. Are You Comfortable About Being A Stay-at-Home Mom?
Not everyone enjoys staying at home. Therefore, you need to ask yourself whether you are
comfortable about leaving your job.
And if you have decided to become a stay at home mom, make sure that you won’t regret it in
3. Can You Deal With The SAHM Responsibilities?
Like any other job, there are also so many responsibilities in being a stay at home mom. In fact,
it may be harder than any job you have ever had. You have to run the whole house and deal
with a lot of hurdles every day.
It is difficult to afford a maid, housekeeper, or a caretaker since you are a stay-at-home mom
and therefore you mostly have to manage everything by yourself.
Daily care of the kids, changing diapers, cooking, cleaning up messes, errands, and whatnot.
You can assume how difficult it would be. If you believe you can manage all the responsibilities
of a SAHM, then go for it, otherwise you need to rethink it.
4. What About Your Career Goals?
Being a stay-at-home mom does not only affect your lifestyle, but also your career. What you need to consider is, when you’ll go back to work, would you be able to compete
with people having more recent experience?
It is easier to find a job when you have a job so the longer you are away from your career the harder it will be to find your next position. It is not impossible, just harder and something to keep in mind or prepare for.
5. What About Your Social Life?
Though you’ll have a lot of work to do, still staying at home for too long can make anyone
frustrated. You rarely have social interactions. Your social circle shrinks. You may miss going to work, interacting with colleagues and friends.
Therefore, you need to consider if you could cope with this situation and if it’s something that is important to you.
6. How Long Will You Be A Stay-At-Home Mom?
This decision entirely depends upon you. Some mothers stay-at-home until their child starts
going to preschool; some wait until they graduate high-school.
What you need to consider is, how long can you afford to be away from work? If your partner earns enough money and you want to be a stay-at-home mom, then it’s pretty clear that you can stay home as long as you want and need to.
7. What If You Get Bored With Your Routine?
Being a stay-at-home mom at some point you might feel that your life has become boring. You
have to perform your mom role 24/7 and being in the same routine can get monotonous.
You might want to spend some time in your favorite hobby or any constructive activity, but it
might be possible that you’ll find no energy or time for this.
8. Does Being a Stay-at-Home Mom Lead To Stress?
Even though your work stress has gone, still it can be stressful to stay at home. You might feel
overburden as you are responsible for everything in the home. You may also have extra stress from reduced finances and frugality.
According to a study by Gallup, stay-at-home moms feel more depressed and sad than employed moms. You have to decide if it’s more stress than its worth.
9. Will You Be Able to Get “Me Time”?
Whether you’ve noticed or not but when you are a working lady, you have time for yourself.
Such as going on a lunch break, party, or movies etc. Once you become a stay-at-home mom, it will be difficult for you to have downtime or alone time. Finding time for yourself is beneficial for your inner growth and renewal.
You can give your best when you are taking care of yourself. Therefore, you need to think about
how you can find me time every day.
10. What Are Your Spouse’s Thoughts On Being A Stay-At-Home Mom?
If you are considering becoming a Stay-at-home mom, you need to talk to your partner about
this major decision. As after a child, life will be changed for both of you, yours as a mom and his as a sole provider.
You both need to clarify and understand each other’s responsibilities. By doing so, you can both be on the same page and it’ll become easy for you to adapt the changes in your lifestyle.
The Bottom Line:
It is not easy to make decisions related to parenting. Even if you’re confident in whatever
decision you made, there will be times when you might have doubts about it. Hence, remember
that there is no right or wrong decision. If you feel that being a stay-at-home will be the right choice for your bundle of joy, then go for it. Know that whether you’re a working mom or a stay-at-home mom, you will raise happy and wonderful children. Trust in yourself!